Considering how much effects social media is having on our secret lives, couples needs to know when to make their relationship secret or public. Well, keeping your relationship private is good. Keeping it a secret is bad. Don’t be confused. Read on to know how to keep a private relationship.
What does it mean to have a private relationship?
Usually, having a private relationship doesn’t mean that you hide your partner from the world or pretend you’re not in a relationship. For sure, you can talk about your relationship with others. Still, the point of privacy in relationships is that you don’t feel the need to obtain other people’s approval.
So, Keeping your relationships private simply means that you and your partner share the most intimate details of your lives, but you don’t share them with the world. This also means that you don’t post every emotion or fight on social media.
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Being in a private relationship, you need less to worry about what other people think of your relationship, their approval or not isn’t an issue for you, nor are you focused on making other people jealous or impressing them with your love life.
How to be in a private relationship
Many love birds have defined being in love or getting into a new relationship is how frequently they talk about their new partner. You could be having a conversation about something totally unrelated and they’ll look for a way to bring their new girlfriend or boyfriend into it.
The same way you have people who want to share everything about their relationships/marriages to the public, you also have people who have learnt to be secretive about theirs.
It is perfectly OK if a private relationship or marriage is what you want. But just be sure that you are keeping a private relationship and not a secret relationship because there’s actually a difference.
In fact, some people who keep their relationships secret think they are just being private about it. If no one knows that you are in a relationship, despite having been asked severally, or having been presented with the opportunity to indicate your relationship status, then you are keeping it secret.
When asked if you are in a relationship and not stating your answer clearly – YES or NO – is wrong. It could be rightly interpreted as you are lying.
Mostly, lying about your relationship status almost always means one thing – you are considering the possibility of cheating, or hoping to ‘sexually defraud’ someone by making them believe you are single when you are not.
That’s just sneaky and deceptive. Some may also say this is a sigh that you are ashamed of your partner – and they won’t entirely be wrong. Being private about your relationship means that although you are not excessively loud and or annoying with it all the time, you are still unequivocally truthful about being in one. However, that’s all you let people know.
You don’t go on social media to show every gift your boo bought, you don’t do everything for the gram, you don’t tell your friends every time you have sex with your girl, your girls don’t get the complete gist of every moment spent with bae.
Private relationships are defined by how limited of the details that The minimal the information you share with close friends, family member and social media, the better.
Take a look at Mercy Johnson and her husband or Simi and Adekunle Gold’s relationship. Despite being such public, popular figures, they keep such a tight lid on what gets out and what does not. You know they are a couple but that’s pretty much it.