American author, activist, speaker, podcaster, and YouTuber Aziza Kibibi McGill-Ayinde, better known by her stage name Aziza Kibibi, was born on September 10, 1977. She is most known for being the author of “Unashamed: a life tainted…volumes 1 and 2”, in which she describes her experiences as a child victim of sexual abuse. Precious Little Ladies Inc. (PLL), a social advancement group that works to end child molestation and abuse, domestic violence, incestuous abuse, and sexual assault, was founded by Aziza and she serves as its CEO.
On WZYE 95.9 FM, Kibibi hosted the radio program “Up Close and Personal” and the podcast “Self Published,” both of which were about her experience publishing her memoir.
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As a campaigner and a victim of molestation, rape, and incestuous abuse at the hands of her father, renowned music video director and MTV Music Video Award winner Aswad Ayinde, Kibibi rose to national fame.
She started her journey in August 2013, one month after a judge mandated that Ayinde serve 50 years in prison for repeatedly assaulting Kibibi with sexual objects beginning when she was 8 years old and continuing until she was 23 years old. Ayinde became five times pregnant with Kibibi as a result of the attacks. A daughter of Kibibi’s was born with serious genetic abnormalities and died at the age of nine.
Ayinde had already been sentenced to 40 years in prison for assaults on another daughter who also gave birth to a child prior to the July 2013 sentencing.
When Kibibi was eight years old, her father allegedly started molesting her. He also beat his wife, Kibibi’s mother, and subjected her to physical abuse.
Multidisciplinary artist Kibibi is the host of the podcast “Self Published,” in which she discusses the process of writing and publishing her memoirs and creating her radio show “Up Close and Personal,” as well as giving creators, authors, and publishers information, tips, and inspiration.
Early life and career
Kibibi was raised in Paterson, New Jersey, where he was born. Prior to giving up her job as a company clerk, Beverly Ayinde, her mother, was a full-time homemaker. Her father, Aswad Ayinde, was a well-known music video director who is most known for creating The Fugees’ “Killing Me Softly” music video.
Kibibi was raised in a very regulated environment. Although she was homeschooled, she was given the opportunity to play with nearby kids when she was little.
When Kibibi was 10 years old, her father started sneaking into her room at night to rape her. Kibibi gave birth to her first child, a daughter whom she named Arrishtk, following years of abuse and rape.
As Ayinde’s grip over and physical abuse toward his family grew, the family relocated within New Jersey. The penalties were harsh and even involved sodomy. He even stopped them from visiting doctors.
Up until 2002, Kibibi made multiple failed attempts to elude capture. She took her son to a neighboring hospital for treatment when he started having seizures. A social worker became aware of the situation, and the daughters’ detention eventually ended.
The children of Kibibi were taken from her custody by the Division of Youth and Family Services, New Jersey’s child protection department at the time (now known as the Department of Children Protection and Permanency). They were placed in separate foster homes.
During Kibibi’s separation from her children, Ayinde sexually assaulted her again, which resulted in the birth of another child, KoKo. Her daughter from that pregnancy was born with Muscular_dystrophy|muscular dystrophy and leaving her severely impaired. Kibibi’s daughter succumbed to her condition and died in 2010.
Downfall of Ayinde
Eventually, in 2006, Kibibi and her sisters brought criminal charges against Ayinde. She was still able to obtain her GED, get married and have another son, with her husband.
By July 2013, prosecutors had completed two out of an expected five trials against Ayinde, and he was sentenced to 90 years in prison.
Coverage of Aziza
Kibibi started to appear in various documentaries and feature stories to motivate others after earning her independence and testifying against her father. A $10,000 grant was given to Kibibi in March 2019 by the international women’s group Soroptomist as part of its Women’s Opportunity Awards program.
“Unashamed: a life tainted,” by Kibibi, was released in May 2015. Based on 54 ratings as of May 10, 2021, it had a mean score of 4.63 out of 5 as of that date.